In very simplified terms: EMDR helps your brain unstick the memories that are causing you distress. When we experience something overwhelming—whether it’s a big-T Trauma like a car accident or a small-t trauma like years of subtle emotional neglect—our brains sometimes store those memories in a kind of “raw” state. That means you can get triggered by seemingly random things (a smell, a comment, a sound) and suddenly feel like you’re right back in that moment, even if it happened 10 years ago.

Between gifts, travel, decorations, and all those festive lattes, it’s easy to feel like your bank account is sprinting to January 1st faster than you are. But don’t worry; with a little planning and a touch of mindfulness, you can make it through the holidays with your wallet—and your sanity—intact.